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We’re going to be building a house here in South Texas this year. I’m so excited to be getting our own home! The trouble is, I’m also very conflicted about all the details! We have to choose paint colors, countertops, layouts… it’s so complicated! We had decided not to put in a fireplace, but with this crazy cold, I’m questioning that! How do you make these decisions?
From the ground up, fixer upper, or ready to move in… no house comes without big decisions! If it were me, I would make an idea board or book. Dedicate a section to each room and brainstorm all the decisions you’ll need to make. Consult magazines and the internet for ideas. Try to make broad decisions to start with, like color families and flooring material, and what you’d like to have as an overall feel or theme of your house. Then, move on to the details, like specific paint colors, countertops, and window trims.
Also, dear, don’t let a one-time cold snap change your floor plan. Certainly, consider if it’s something you’d like to maintain long term, but don’t fool yourself into thinking it’s necessary because of a fluke weather pattern. Use the money it would cost for a fireplace you’ll use maybe once a year and invest in a backup power source! Because when a storm comes through in July and knocks out your power again, a fireplace won’t be very helpful!
Dear Ms. Tessie,
My best friend is moving away. Her parents got jobs in another town far away from here, and she has to go with them. I’m going to miss her so much! How can I be not so sad about her leaving?
Unfortunately, friends will come and go sometimes. Just because your friend has to leave, it doesn’t mean she loves you any less, and it’s OK that you will miss each other dearly. It’s OK to be sad, and even a little mad that these things happen, too. I know it can be very frustrating when grown-ups make decisions, and it feels like you can’t do anything about it.
When I was a young girl, my best friend also moved away. We wrote each other letters every week, and she would come back every summer to visit her grandmother for a month. We would spend every moment together that we were allowed while she was in town, because in those days, we couldn’t even call each other. Long distance telephone calls would have cost a fortune!
You, my dear, are still very lucky, though. You will have email, chat, and cell phones. We also all have a new set of skills with video chat! Though you might be very far apart in distance, you can remain very connected. Being able to stay in touch so easily can make this problem a bit less painful. Sometimes you might even forget that she’s so far away, and not just back in quarantine down the road!