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Tessie’s Two Cents
I think I might be a hoarder. I definitely have a problem with clutter. I have too much stuff, I’m really bad about holding onto stuff, and I always wind up convincing myself it’s ok to get new or more stuff. Not to mention, I don’t even have room to put any of it away right. I always have papers out, I always have a basket of laundry I should fold, and things everywhere. I think it’s a bad habit, but I’m not sure how to break it. Got any tips?
First, it’s not all your fault. Lots of people have trouble resisting the advertisements that are constantly telling us that we need everything they are selling. It’s nearly impossible to escape their advertisements, as well, so even if you are strong, they can wear you down and convince you that anything is worth buying at least once, or that you might need it somewhere along the line. Their lot in life is to wear you down, so give yourself some grace!
Second, it’s very important that you follow some rules in your home. So many factors can have a daily impact on clutter. One of the most important things you can do is remember there should be a place for everything, and everything should be in its place. Now, if you can’t find a place for something, make one. If you can’t quite figure that it’s important enough for it to have its own place, then it’s possible you don’t need to keep it. If you don’t need to keep it, you shouldn’t let it make your life any harder for any longer.
Third, consider why this is a bad habit you have and don’t be afraid to get help to solve the problem!
My partner really loves plants and has a lot in our house. I love that he loves plants, and I like that our place has so much fresh green color in it. I pretty much have a black thumb, and I stay away from his plants as much as I can unless he is over my shoulder coaching me on what to do with them, so I don’t hurt anything. He’s leaving for a week and a half for training, and I’m scared to death to be responsible for them. I watch him tending these things every day but I’m like the plant grim reaper! Is it weird to hire a plant sitter while I’m here?
Take a deep breath, dear. Your partner will be gone for maybe 11 to 12 days, not 30. It’s not very likely that you’ll be responsible long enough for you to do any irreparable damage to his greenery. You can do this!
Before he leaves, ask him to leave you detailed written instructions on what you’re expected to do in his place. Ask him to draw a map of what plants are where, so you can’t mistake the fiddleleaf for the fern, with specific instructions of what needs to be done to each.
Make sure that he writes down all the small details, remind him that you’re inexperienced, and don’t be afraid to admit that you’re shaking like the leaves.
And remember that when it comes to plants, you’re much more likely to fuss too much over them while he’s gone than you are to dry them out in that time. Don’t hire a plant sitter, you will be a perfect caretaker on your own!