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JUDGING EVERY MOVE THEY MAKE
My coworker insists she has some kind of condition. She hasn’t really told any of us about it, but I know my boss knows because my coworker gets some accommodations to her schedule that I’ve had to deal with. The thing is, she’s fine! She’s an active woman in her late 30s, and I haven’t seen a single thing that qualifies her for special treatment. How can I address this?
The catch to illness is that sometimes it isn’t visible to the naked eye. I can understand your being concerned that your coworker’s altered schedule can create inconveniences, but it’s a bit disrespectful to say that you can’t see their sickness so it must not be real.
Many chronic illnesses are invisible, and many sufferers are painfully aware of it. They know that on top of whatever pain or troubles they regularly experience, their peers are behind them judging every move they make and whispering that there’s nothing really wrong with them.
I’d recommend you consider this: can you see when your boss has an upset stomach? Does your best friend’s hair glow when she’s got a headache? If all human ailments were visible to the naked eye, babies would be much easier to keep from crying in the middle of the night.
If your coworker wants to clue you in, it’s her decision to make. I also have to remind you to tread lightly… there’s a little thing called the Americans with Disabilities Act that could earn you an awkward trip to human resources.
I think my cat is depressed. She stares out the window all day, and sometimes she makes this sound that almost sounds like she’s crying. When she’s not staring, she’s curled up in a ball and just sleeping. She just seems sad. How can I help her?
A sad cat is often easy to detect. Some good signs your cat is troubled are a lack of self-grooming, lack of appetite, changes in bathroom habits, or even excessively scratching up your house. If you’re worried it could be illness or pain, I highly suggest taking your furry friend to the vet.
What your description sounds like to me is a normal cat. One who enjoys seeing the outdoors and would love nothing more than to jump through the window and catch a bird. Some cats get really excited and actually chitter-chatter at what they’re watching.
Did you know there are videos on the internet for cats to watch that you could try? Imagine, before you leave the house, turning on the TV for your cats to watch! Yet, there are videos of birds at feeders that go for eight hours, meant just for your furry friend.
Really, it never hurts to have your pet checked over by a professional if you’re worried, but if you’re just worried about your cat loving a good view and naps… you might be meowing up the wrong tree!