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I’ve recently had someone come back in my life that I haven’t seen in several years. This person hurt me deeply, and I had cut them out and honestly felt better for it. But you know how it goes, and circumstances have led to them being back in my life and me not being able to avoid the person and it’s really making me miserable all over again. What do I do here?
I suspect by the way you’ve worded your message you are very afraid someone you know might recognize this situation. It complicates things extra when you feel you can’t be open and honest about your feelings.
Now I can’t speak to what happened between you, because I don’t know the story. But the best advice I can give you is to stop the festering and work on forgiveness. Open yourself up to forgiveness, for yourself and the others around you. Holding onto anger and resentment tends to pile on more negatives.
It takes a lot of effort to hate a person, and those hateful feelings will sit in your belly and mess up your insides. It’ll seep out into the rest of your life and make you into a very undesirable person to be around. And since you said this person is unavoidable, right now you’re on a one-way train to gloom.
My dear friend, it’s time to find a way to move on, however difficult that may be. And it’s true that this person may very well be the end result of their own anger: just a miserable person to be around. Don’t fall into that trap. Choose forgiveness, happiness, and better days going forward!
What do you do when you feel like the world is spinning too fast and you can’t keep up? I’m absolutely drowning in my home, work, and everything else life, and I don’t know what to do.
Let me throw you a floatation device before you sink all the way below the water. You need to sit down with a large coffee, or tea, or whatever beverage makes your heart smile a bit (but doesn’t get you tipsy, that’s just a source of more trouble in this case). And you need to just sit with it for a while. Take a slow morning, or afternoon, or watch a sunset even, no matter how impossible that might be.
Spend that time breaking it down. What is it that’s happening? What is too much, and what isn’t enough? What are the expectations that you’re holding that you should maybe let up on a little? What’s the easiest place for you to start, and see some results that make you feel better, and inspire you to take back over your life?
Then go from there, one step at a time. It’ll all come around.