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Have a Question About Life’sLittle Problems?
I have an opportunity to take the trip of a lifetime, leaving in August and staying gone for two and a half weeks.
I’m vaccinated, I’m financially able, and I can arrange to have everything taken care of while I’m gone. But I’m worried about what I’ll miss with my kids! They’re 7 and 3, so I’m not going to miss firsts, but I’ll leave right after school starts and I’m worried about the changes. But what if I never get the chance to take this trip again?
Dear Ms. FOMO,
Do I understand that FOMO means “fear of missing out”? I’ve seen it before, and it’s such a wonderful term. So many of us have the same concerns, and now there’s a popular expression for it!
Anyhow, I’d like to share another phrase with you… or quote, rather. John Greenleaf Whittier was an American poet. I have always loved this: “Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, ‘It might have been.’”
So, which option do you think will inspire more “might have been” in you? I can’t tell you if you’ll miss something with your children, or if you’ll miss something by skipping this trip, only you can decide that.
Maybe you’ll be left to wonder either way, but I believe it’s vital that you consider both sides through the “might have been” lens.
I really need the decluttering trend, but I’m not happy parting with stuff. I like my collections and gadgets, even if I don’t use them much. I’ll get to it eventually.
My home definitely needs to be more orderly, but I spent good money on my belongings, so why should I just get rid of them?
Clutter really is a keyword right now, isn’t it? I’m proud that folks are making their house a happy place instead of a dust collection warehouse, but it can be overwhelming to jump on this particular wagon.
I heard a saying recently that clutter is just a museum of the things we thought would make us happy. It’s no secret that many of us have a lot of knickknacks and doodads that we really expected to be useful that turned out to simply be the space holders keeping our used items from getting lost in the back of drawers. (I’m looking at you, spiral slicer, garlic press, and corn kernel stripper, I know you’re still in that drawer!)
There are some experts who will tell you about your belongings sparking joy, some going on about rainbows, and still others who will insist you count your belongings and only allow yourself to have a certain number. But you can’t take any of that advice as the last word.
Here’s a simplified answer from a lady who’s taken care of a home for a few years…
There should be a place for everything, and everything should be in its place.
If you haven’t got space enough for what you own, you own too much.
If the shelves are full, and the wall is full of shelves, you need to reconsider your collection.
And my most recent favorite: When you’re done with it, don’t put it down, put it away.
Start with those. Have a look at what the experts say, and don’t beat yourself up about not following it perfectly. Just make sure your house is a place where you’re happy, and the things in it don’t make you feel unhappy.