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Try to be a positive light in the world around you
By: Magnolia Jade
My boyfriend keeps telling me I’m too much of everything. Too weird, too loud, too excited, too everything that I ever do. He chastises me like I’m a kid, and rolls his eyes at me when I’m excited about something. He keeps telling me that I need to change, but I am the same person I’ve always been, and I don’t understand why he’s so upset with me suddenly. Help!
Letters and questions like yours always make me really pause and think. I worry for people who sit in negative surroundings, people who have to deal with that bad energy. It makes me sad.
Who you are is you. You aren’t too weird, too excited, or too much. It’s possible to be too loud, but it’s not really possible to be too you!
Never let someone tell you that you need to dull yourself because of their opinions about who you are. Their opinions about who you are is the you that they expect through their own lens, not the authentic you.
People grow and change. We grow every day, and learn new things every day, and evolve every day. You should always try to be a positive light or a positive presence in the world around you, and not use your own fear of growth and change to drag people down.
It seems to me like your boyfriend is upset with you for being you. To me, that’s a serious conversation to have, and a serious situation to review. Only good, positive vibes for you, friend. You’re going to need them.
Good vibes always,
My wife keeps trying to convince me we need a dog. I’ve told her time and time again that we just don’t have any business taking on a dog right now. We both travel a lot now, and finding someone to care for a dog or a place to board a dog while we’re gone is just going to be difficult. She seems to think it’s reasonable to just leave a dog in the yard while we’re gone, and I disagree.
Everybody always tells me that dogs aren’t like kids, but I totally don’t agree with them. You can really think of a dog or any pet the same as you would think about having a kid. They’re dependent on you to make their life happen. You have to feed them, you have to bathe them, you have to make sure they’re healthy. Pets don’t usually wear clothes, but you still have to spend money on toys and follow them to take care of whatever they tear up, break, or make a mess of.
Now, it’s true that you can leave a dog in a yard, but you can’t leave a kid in a yard. Like you’ll get in a lot of trouble if you just put your kid in the yard with a bowl of food and let them hang out while you’re gone. Totally don’t do that, you’ll get arrested. But dogs can usually handle hanging out, as long as they aren’t a tiny puppy, and they have a safe environment and a solid shelter to get out of the weather.
But just like people, pets get lonely when their friends aren’t around. If you’re gone a lot, your pet will feel that. Some pets do well when they have a companion pet, but then that means you’ve got two of them to figure out!
In the end, you have to decide what you have the ability to take care of, and what you have the time to devote yourself to. Being responsible for another living thing means always considering them as a part of your plans. Communication and good vibes are key, my friend. Go forward with that!
Good vibes always,