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Change is inevitable

Dear Tessie,

I’m worried that the holidays aren’t going to be good enough. Things are different this year because so much has changed, and I don’t think my kids are going to like it. Presents are different, family time is different, and there are more changes to come. Am I being ridiculous?

Cecilia

 

Dear Cecilia,

Change is an inevitable part of life. Especially for children, things are changing all the time. They have new teachers each year, or even different teachers and classes throughout the day. They wake up three weeks down the line and they’ve grown so much that their favorite pants are too short.

Adults don’t exactly get less changes, when you think about it. Folks come and go in our lives over time, new houses, new cars… but largely we make those choices for ourselves, is a main difference. Children get changes constantly, and typically are informed of it rather than choosing it.

As long as you love your children, spend time with them, and provide for their needs, they will love you and be happy and healthy. More or less toys often won’t matter as much as your ability to get in the floor and play pretend with them. They won’t know from one year to the next what was a Christmas present, but they’ll remember you pulling in a step stool and letting them help make cookies. (Like the cookies I heard about being featured in this section this week!)

I repeat, love your children. Be with your children. Changes come every day. What they know is your support and guidance… your interactions with them. Remember, children won’t remember days on the couch watching TV or movies, but they’ll remember how you made them feel.

Love,

Tessie