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Don’t let their darkness drag you down
I love my best friend dearly. But my friend needs professional help. There is serious anxiety, even some paranoia, illogical behavior… I don’t think like… danger to self or others… but it’s becoming impossible to be a friend to this person. I swear my own mental health is struggling because my friend won’t address or work on theirs. What do I do? M
It can be very heartbreaking when we have loved ones in our lives that won’t accept or seek help for their troubles. Especially when those loved ones outright refuse to even acknowledge that there are problems with it.
I too, have been in the situation that you’re asking about. And oh, I tried to be a good friend. I wanted to help and to continue to have the relationship that I did. We don’t often consider important people in our lives as easy to replace, after all.
But after many hours of concern and several heartaches, I ultimately had to distance myself. It can be awful, and heartbreaking, but sometimes the only choice that you can make with someone is to remove yourself.
Especially on matters of mental health, it can be a struggle. No one should be made to jeopardize their mental health to pick up the slack, so to speak, for someone else in their life who refuses to address their own.
You cannot work on yourself and make improvements only to be dragged back into unhealthy habits or ways of thinking. You cannot let someone drag you down because they are too afraid to help themselves out of the dark.