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Be a shining star
Dear Tessie,
I have a lot of fears and insecurities about myself. I know everyone is a little insecure, but I just am constantly worried that I’m probably upsetting people or messing up my friendships. It makes it hard to enjoy time with anybody because I’m worried about all the ways I feel like I’m going to screw up. What in the world can I do to relax a little?
S.N.
Dear S.N.,
Insecurities can make an otherwise wonderful moment into a terrifying situation. When you should be enjoying yourself you’re too concerned to do it. When you should have some peace and quiet, you’re so worried that you can’t hear over the fears playing out in your mind. It can be very frustrating.
We all have different levels of fear and anxiety surrounding our own character and personalities. Some folks are fairly unconcerned, but it seems like you are one of those with a much more complicated view of social situations.
It’s important to remember that if you don’t feel like you can be yourself among your friends, you might be choosing the wrong friends. If natural parts of your personality are something that you are rejected for, maybe the trouble is that you are trying to fit in with the wrong crowd.
But if what you are is just overly concerned about folks, remember that you are an individual, and your personality is what landed you with them in the first place. It is highly likely that if you weren’t a good match for your friends, you’d have known before you became friends.
Don’t let your insecurities change you. Let your wonderful personality be what draws all the great characters into your light, and be the shining star you weren’t meant to be.
Love,
Tessie
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